feat(db): idempotency keys, ban-aware counts, and a host audit trail

Four migrations, all additive against a database that already has 001-025 applied.

026 narrows the client-upload idempotency index with `AND deleted_at IS NULL`. The old
index made a soft-deleted row keep its key forever, so a guest who deleted a photo and
re-sent the same one had the retry silently swallowed. The new indexed set is a strict
subset of the old, so it cannot fail on existing rows.

027 adds `client_join_id`, which lets a join retry after a lost response resume the same
account instead of 409ing on a name the caller itself owns. Every existing row gets NULL
and the partial index excludes NULLs, so it indexes nothing at creation.

028 brings the feed view's like/comment counts in line with what the feed actually renders:
a banned guest's rows were still counted, so a card showed "3 comments" above two.
`comment.rs` gets the matching `NOT u.is_banned` on the live read path — the export and
hashtag queries already filtered it, so the two views of one moderation action disagreed.

029 records host moderation actions, which were previously invisible after the fact.

Verified by applying 001-029 to a real Postgres against seeded data, including a
soft-deleted row holding a key and a banned user's like and comment. 026's down-migration
legitimately fails where a deleted and a live row share a key — that is inherent to the
direction, documented in the file, and sqlx never runs downs at boot.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 5 <noreply@anthropic.com>

backend/src/models/user.rs

@@ -47,19 +47,41 @@ impl User {
         event_id: Uuid,
         display_name: &str,
         pin_hash: &str,
+        client_join_id: Option<Uuid>,
     ) -> Result<Self, sqlx::Error> {
         sqlx::query_as::<_, Self>(
-            "INSERT INTO \"user\" (event_id, display_name, recovery_pin_hash)
-             VALUES ($1, $2, $3)
+            "INSERT INTO \"user\" (event_id, display_name, recovery_pin_hash, client_join_id)
+             VALUES ($1, $2, $3, $4)
              RETURNING *",
         )
         .bind(event_id)
         .bind(display_name)
         .bind(pin_hash)
+        .bind(client_join_id)
         .fetch_one(pool)
         .await
     }
 
+    /// Look up a join that already succeeded, by the idempotency key its client sent.
+    ///
+    /// The retry path for H16: the account was created but the response never arrived, so the
+    /// client re-sends the same `client_join_id`. Finding a row here means "this join already
+    /// happened" — the caller rotates the PIN and answers with a usable one rather than 409ing
+    /// on a name the caller itself owns.
+    pub async fn find_by_client_join_id(
+        pool: &PgPool,
+        event_id: Uuid,
+        client_join_id: Uuid,
+    ) -> Result<Option<Self>, sqlx::Error> {
+        sqlx::query_as::<_, Self>(
+            "SELECT * FROM \"user\" WHERE event_id = $1 AND client_join_id = $2",
+        )
+        .bind(event_id)
+        .bind(client_join_id)
+        .fetch_optional(pool)
+        .await
+    }
+
     /// Create a user with an explicit role, in ONE statement.
     ///
     /// `create` + a separate `UPDATE ... SET role` is not equivalent: a crash or a pool error